Have courage and be kind

Wednesday, 1 April 2015


I sat watching Cinderella last night (which was wonderful!) and it made me think. What would be the one piece of advice I would give my children, over all others?

I spend so much of my time trying to teach them things - always be polite, play nicely, share, be yourself, try your best, eat broccoli - but if I could leave them with only one thing, what would it be? No pressure.

But first, the film. Wow. 

I must admit, I'm starting from a pretty fluffy place - I love everything sparkly, magical, sugar-coated, Disney. It's right up my street; so I was never going to dislike Cinderella. But it really captivated me. Everyone knows the story and, you know, Disney loves a good moral. But something about the way the characters were portrayed really struck a chord.

Cinderella's mother tells her daughter to always have courage and be kind. This sums it up pretty perfectly for me. To be brave in life and brave in love, but not at the expense of someone else. To treat others as you want to be treated yourself. To be kind-hearted and fair. All things I value in other people and hope my children will grow up to value themselves.

Yes Cinderella was relentlessly positive, but she's no sap. She looks for the good in people and sees the world not as it is, but as it could be. Good for her.

It's easy to sneer and criticise someone for being 'too nice' and that really bothers me. Since when is it a weakness to be kind? I'm all for assertiveness and confidence. I want my children to be strong and stand up for themselves and what they believe in, but to always be a kind person. In my opinion, there's way more strength in accepting other people, rather than judging and bitching about them. Holding on to bad feeling (even if it's justified) only leads to more resentment and sadness. Easier said than done, I know, but isn't it better to just let it go? (Hmmm Elsa really ruined that phrase for everyone else didn't she?)

I'm not entirely sure where I'm going with this, truth be told. But I've always found it slightly odd when people say someone is too positive. That it's a weakness. Isn't it harder sometimes to try and find the positive in something? 

Wow, that got deep pretty quick. Back to the reason I started rambling in the first place. One piece of advice I would give to my children.

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I saw this quote a while ago and it stuck with me. I'm not sure it would be my last parting words of wisdom... I'm still quite partial to Cinderella's mum's choice, to be honest. But, as an alternative, I'll go with it. 

What would your words of wisdom be? I'd love to hear :)

8 comments

  1. I'd choose "consider the source" - meaning that when someone tells you something, or says something unkind, look at the person saying it and think about their motive. Generally it's because they don't feel happy with themselves and it's not really about you.

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    1. I always try to remind myself of that too. Great advice :)

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  2. That really is a great quote! Also loving the quote from the above commenter! Both very important messages to give to children!

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    1. Thanks for your comment Lianne :)

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  3. Always have courage and be kind is such a lovely piece of advice, and pretty much what I say to my children too. Not sure I can choose just one piece of advice but I also say a lot to them, always do your best and we will be proud; say kind things; and a good one my Grandma told me when I was a child, look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves. x

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    1. The pennies and pounds advice is one I could do with following a little more ;) x

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  4. I love this post Kate- I completely agree. I recently got a quote for our office which says 'It's nice to be important but it's more important to be nice.' Those are words I honestly live by and I like that I have them up there so I can see them every day. x

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    1. Thanks Katie. Love the quote you've put in your office x

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