Am I forever broody?

Wednesday, 1 July 2015

Two of my beautiful babies

People ask me if we'd ever have another baby and I genuinely can't answer. Then I'm usually met with bewildered faces... like I've completely lost it. Maybe I have.

When I became pregnant with baby number three I found some people's reactions odd, but not surprising I guess. A lot of people just don't want more than one or two babies, and some none at all. And I get that. Each to their own. But I've always wanted a big family and I don't feel 'done' yet.

Which got me thinking... will I ever feel done? Let's say we decide to try for a fourth baby; will I stop feeling broody then? Or am I forever broody?

I follow a few mums with large families on Instagram and Twitter; their lives fascinate me. I find something really comforting about a huge kitchen table full of food and smiling faces. (Let's just pretend all mealtimes go smoothly, with zero tantrums, lobbing of broccoli or pudding blackmail).

I guess this post may have something to do with how I'm feeling at the moment. My first baby is nine this year, my little girl will move up to juniors in September and my baby boy is a proper twonager. 

I love every minute of watching them grow. Seeing their personalities and characters develop. Watching their relationship with each other too. It's more wonderful than I ever imagined - my eldest two are the best of friends and absolutely adore having a baby brother (and he absolutely adores all the attention they give him!).  

So here I am. Mummy of three beautiful children. I couldn't ask for more. Could I?

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  1. Great post. I have always said I only want two and I have two. But...they grow up so fast and I love having and caring for kids. I hate being pregnant, however. & I do wonder if having more would only delay the inevitable - I would have to stop at some point, and I would still then feel sad at no more babies and how quick they grow up. I don't think that feeling can be avoided forever, however many you have. But I am no longer completely certain about only two. #MMWBH

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    1. They do grow so fast. And they're our world, so its impossible to imagine life without children in the house isn't it? Thanks for commenting :)

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  2. This is so prudent for me right now, I was always having two until I met my husband then it turned to four. Then I had one and it went to two!!!
    I don't know that I am done though. We just got a puppy and he reminds of the annoying baby bits but I keep thinking about their tinyness and I don't know if I can face no more firsts.
    But when do you stop, do you stop?! By you I mean anyone.
    Such a tough decision! And very different for everyone like you say, feels good to acknowledge the broodiness though!!
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    1. Haha we were the same! We always said we wanted to have four children. Then, after baby number one, we thought "hmmm, maybe two is best after all!" Fast forward a couple of years, toddler tantrums behind us, and we decided to add another little person to our family. You're right, acknowledging the feelings is very important. Thanks for commenting :)

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  3. I hear you on this completely. I have 5 children and feel extremely blessed in that and even though I am done....I still don't 'feel' done. So I hear you but I think it's a woman thing we're built to make babies right so maybe its just a natural feeling for us. x

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    1. Hi Debs - your blog is one of the reasons I want a larger family :) Your children are beautiful. It's definitely a woman thing, you're right. Although, my husband gets pretty broody too!x

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  4. I really enjoyed this post. I am also fascinated by larger families and I think I too will be forever 'not done'. I always said I definitely wanted two but now I think just one more. ;) x

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    1. Thanks Katie. You have such beautiful children, you absolutely have to have one more ;) x

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  5. I am definitely with you on this! I have three and it has been such hard work with the three but I am still broody - especially as they get older! I think I'll always be the 'just one more' type too!

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    1. Good to know I'm not alone in my 'forever broodiness'. Thanks for commenting :)

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  6. Well.....I said 13 years ago, that's it - 3 is enough and I was happy. Then... 3 years ago I fell pregnant - at the age of 40! I was incredibly broody and incredibly blessed to have had my fourth - Pickle. He literally is heaven sent.I am still broody - and will always be - but at 44 there is definitely no more. I just think of the negatives to wake me up!! Thank you for linking up to #MyFavouritePost Kaz x

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  7. I wish I could have more, but I really struggled in my last pregnancy physically and emotionally. If I thought the family could go through it again I'd do it, but we will probably stay as we are now. 3 is a good number. Thanks for linking up with #MyFavouritePost

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  8. Ack bless you, what a lovely post. I think if you want another one it'll happen when its right. I'm a firm believer in that. Thanks for linking up with #MMWBH

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  9. I've been talking to a lot of friends recently who feel the same. I say "I'm done" as I have four kids and the practical side can be tough. But, if space and money were no object, I would love another one. I feel sad when I realise that I won't have another one. When the option is taken away from me then I'm sure I will take it hard to begin with. I think it's human nature xxx

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  10. I had mine at 43 and 45 so since I'm 51 now I don't think I'll be having anymore. I think if I were ten years' younger I might be tempted!

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  11. I've only got the one but definitely want at least another one. My sister has two and would love another, she says the only thing stopping her is money, they are in a two bedroom house and can't afford to move. I think a lot of people would have more if money was no object.

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  12. I was something of a late starter, 32 on my first but now I think, how many will I have? I'm with you on the fascination with large families thing though. I'm one of 7 and I love to see huge families :)

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  13. What a fab honest post. I would love a huge family but don't think I'd ever be able to afford it. Perhaps the broodiness comes from the children growing up and not needing us as parents so much :( x

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  14. I think once you have one you'll be forever not done. Something changes in you when you become a mother, and nothing else is as important. Good luck deciding whether to grow your family!
    Alana x

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  15. Oh do it!! Pickle is my fourth - at age 41 - after a ten year gap. I was super broody and i am SO glad I had him :D Kaz x

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